Dec 14, 2009

They Have NO Idea What's Coming To Them

Musings of A Beautiful Mess
I haven't been in love with Zilla's new school since he started. I was unimpressed with the way the school looked and was nervous about transferring him. The school was down the street and if something came up, I could always walk down to grab him. That was pretty much the only thing they had going for them. I met his teacher and everything in September, she was from his old school, so I thought the curriculum would be the same. While that is true, we're are very unhappy with this school. The last straw was today when we went to pick him up and he was IN THE PARKING LOT! The kid is six years old, he has NO business being in the damn parking lot! the principal was outside so I talked to him and he said that they stopped handing off the children to their parents after Thanksgiving. Ummmm OK, so the children are left to decide where to meet their parents? That isn't OK with me. Zilla is a very active six year old boy and has the "shoot first, ask questions later" mentality. I could see some random person going up to him telling him that his dad told him to be picked up by someone else. As much as I've told Zilla not to go with anyone other then Dirty or myself, I could see this happening. So seeing him in the parking lot really pissed me off and scared the crap out of me. I might be a bit gun shy since I lost him almost a year ago, but that's a different story for a different day. Or not, I don't like to think about it often. Just know that the old cliche "I only turned my back for a second" is a cliche for a reason!

Anyway, there have been some behavioral issues lately and Zilla has been coming home with yellow (bad day) and red (really bad day) days. When I've talked to his teacher about these, they seem to be "boy" things. Not excusing his behavior, but it's for things such as him talking when it's suppose to be quiet time. It seems that she gives the whole class a general rule and if anyone disobeys the rule, they have to change their card. It also seems as if they don't get a chance to turn their card back to green (good day). Every time he gets a yellow or a red, he gets punished. We may not agree with the way his teacher is doing things, but we still have to follow through at home, so we do. When we ask Zilla why he's having these bad says, his answer always coincides with what the teacher says, and it's really not all that bad. On the other hand, I get that she has to be strict in order to keep her class in line. It's her against 20 six year olds, odds are not in her favor. We were willing to work with his teacher and her differences in the behavior, but then this happened today and we've kind of had it.

Then we went to do his homework when we got home and for the third week in a row, he's gotten Spanish homework. It's great that they are teaching the children a different language, but neither Dirty or myself speak Spanish. How am I suppose to help him with his homework, when I can't even read it? He did a Christmas countdown and THAT was in Spanish. Ummm we can't participate in the activities that are on the countdown because we DON'T SPEAK SPANISH! There was nothing given to us stating that they were teaching him Spanish, nor was there anything said about homework being done in Spanish only. That leads me to think that they aren't paying attention and giving him the wrong homework. The kids is behind enough as it is, he doesn't need any MORE help getting behind.

So I called his old school, talked to the secretary and asked about an in-district transfer. She gave me ALL the details and even told me that if anything got hung up, to call her. When I called and told them who I was, they remembered me! That's what I like to hear! One of the gals did call me by my daughter's name, but she STILL remembered our family! I will not be sad about leaving this school. It feels like we're coming back home. If anything gets hung up, you better believe, I'm marching into the district office. Don't tempt me people, you WILL be sorry! You have NO idea who you're dealing with. You don't want to mess with my kid!

13 friends have commented:

My name is Andy. on December 14, 2009 at 5:01 PM said...

I can't believe he was in the parking lot! That is just crazy. School issues can really suck! Good luck on getting him transferred back.

Stacie on December 14, 2009 at 5:37 PM said...

Way to go, mama! You tell 'em how it is going to be! :-)

I can't believe he was in the parking lot, either. And with the principal there?!!? That is just ridiculous. If I were in your place, I think I'd do the same thing. Hugs.

A Mom in Jacksonville, FL on December 14, 2009 at 5:51 PM said...

Catching up...

--As a parent I'm mortified that he was in the parking lot unattended! And as a teacher, we are NOT allowed to let "car rider" students leave the "waiting zone" until their parent has arrived. I teach middle school---I can't believe they have 6 year olds roaming around solo. Ridiculous!

--Sorry you were sick, hope you're 100% better now.

--LOVED your essay. YOU.GO.GIRL. What talent!

I think I'm caught up now. :)

Quiet Dreams on December 14, 2009 at 5:59 PM said...

Do NOT mess with Dani's kid, people.

And don't say I didn't warn you.

Kristin on December 14, 2009 at 10:05 PM said...

Go Dani Go! I do believe someone pissed off the mama bear and she is coming out with her claws ready.

Jaymee on December 15, 2009 at 12:17 AM said...

i would not want to be on the receiving end of that mad momma!! so sorry that you all have had to endure all of this. so happy that you are able to find a great alternative!

Marie on December 15, 2009 at 7:55 AM said...

Oh Lord, don't even get me started on the school thing. They try to be so "rule oriented" that they end up making the kids suffer the THEIR stupid choices. To let a six year old wonder around the parking lot is insane. We live behind the school and instead of letting my son walk through the back gate to our house from the school yard they make him walk around the block in all the traffic. They actually put a PAD LOCK on OUR gate so he couldn't get in.

Oh and the color change thing is bs too. He got a color change in kindegarton for pretending he was a dog. I thought it was pretty funny and told the teacher so. She was not amused. When she got onto him he growled at her..hee hee I started to growl at her too but like you said we had to back her up.

MoxieMamaKC on December 15, 2009 at 11:14 AM said...

Go get 'em!!! My daughter attends a French immersion school and neither Handsome or I speak French. It's overwhelming to try and "help" her when we have no idea what it is we're doing...hang in there and good luck with the transfer!

Billy's Poetry Blog on December 15, 2009 at 12:10 PM said...

hello

I am a friend of Gerardines and have been going through all her links its your turn lol, It is annoying when u think ur child is safe and in responsible care and it turns out they are not... we do worry about our kids and what kind of education they will get, thankfully I had no such issues with my daughters as they were very good at telling their mom if they had issues, well done getting him back and thanks for sharing...

gerardinebaugh on December 15, 2009 at 4:18 PM said...

He was in the parking lot!! I would have started yelling about liability. What happened to,- if the parent isn’t there they take the kid to the office?- Or this is a shocker the teacher waits outside with her students.

This school never gave out a list of your son’s classes? He is six- Spanish class at six? Is he in accelerated classes?

I have met some very bad teachers who think; because they are teachers they know everything. They don’t!

Oh! If you talk to your son after school about the color cards and the issues are minor. Ask him why he keeps doing the same things over and over. Just talk to him- the problem may be him- or the teacher is the problem.

You need some talk time with the teacher and the principal.. Such fun...

Ji on December 15, 2009 at 5:26 PM said...

sorry to hear about your child's issues in new school. Being bilingual is good, but only if support from both school and home are given...you are right to take actions and try to improve things.

Good luck and take care!

Sunny on December 17, 2009 at 7:44 PM said...

Man! I don't blame you for being furious. NOT OKAY. I'm glad you have another option that is better for your family.

I never really "got" the homeschool thing, but the more I hear about schools these days (they seem worse than when I was there) the more I understand the urge to pull your kid and teach them at home, with the support of a local group.

The Red Headed Mama on December 29, 2009 at 7:23 PM said...

I've been slacking on the blog reading...so I read your most recent post (SCARY!) but had to come find the whole parking lot story. To be perfectly honest, when reading the newer post I thought you had to be exaggerating and being way over protective. I also have a 6 year old boy and was thinking "seriously? I'm sure he knows how to walk in a parking lot" thinking...you know, he's walking through the parking lot TO YOU. Now, just letting the kids wander off to get in to whatever car they want is.not.acceptable. No way, no how, not gonna happen. I've gotten stuck in traffic and hung up with a screaming baby twice and had to get my son from the office. Would they just let him hang out in the parking lot if something happened and you were late?! HE'S SIX!!!! SERIOUSLY? Okay, now I'm mad for you. UGH.

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