Jul 10, 2009

Ahhhh Much Better!

Musings of A Beautiful Mess
****children mentioned****

Thank you all for your amazing comments on my last post. I know I was a bit whinny and over dramatic and nobody said a thing about it! Thank you, ya'll are simply The Best!

Just a few minutes after I hit that lovely, sometimes scary, "publish" button I felt a HUGE weight lift off my shoulders. I've done so well at disconnecting myself from Peaches and her decisions. I've even done a wonderful job at disconnecting myself from my other friends' decisions. It isn't my life and their choices won't effect my life. They may effect my life, but not in the same way they will effect their OWN lives. It's a very emotionally healthy way to live. It's taken me awhile to get here, but here I am. I'm sure I'll have set backs every now and then and run around like Chicken Little, but I'll always come back to sanity.

Today was a pretty big day here. It was Zilla's big birthday. The little guy turned six! We had a great day of opening presents and having "birthday pie". He requested mac and cheese, from a box :-| with hot dogs and a pie I made for Peaches' birthday on Wednesday. And that's what he got. Husband and I stayed up until 3am wrapping presents (me) and decorating the house (us). It was a very long day. Not only was it long because I didn't get to bed until 3am, I had stayed up until around 2am with Peaches and another friend drinking wine and celebrating Peaches' birthday. WHEW! Too many birthdays in one week! Although, I am SO thankful that Peaches wanted to chill out by the fire and have a few glasses of wine with girl talk and not go out. I'm old and wouldn't have been able to handle it like the rest of em. Plus none of them really have a family, so they're able to drink or stay out until all hours of the morning and then sleep it off all the next day. Me, not so much.

Anyway, sorry got off track....so today we celebrated Zilla's sixth birthday. He opened up his presents and ran around all day saying "because I'm the birthday boy". Apparently, because it was his birth day he could do whatever he wanted. How cute! Silly boy doesn't realize I get to do whatever I want NOT him! I did tell him it was my "give-birth-day and I could do whatever I wanted, too" He didn't buy it. Next Sunday is The Party. We were going to have a party for his friends and then a party for family, but Husband thought it would be better to combine the two. It's his family that will be here, so if he wants to drive his parents crazy with a group of wild boys, them by ALL means, lets combine the two! This will be fun blogging material, stay tuned for THAT entry next week!

Other then the birthday week, all has been going well around here. I feel very good about detaching myself from certain decisions and allowing choices to be made. It's not like I wouldn't allow choices to be made, I'll just stay out of it.

I'm too tired to string anymore words together to form some sort of sentence, so I will go to bed. Night all. Sending out warm thoughts to everyone!

16 friends have commented:

WiseGuy on July 11, 2009 at 6:42 AM said...

Happy Birthday Zilla!

Yeah, children do think that they have a passport for everything on their birthdays...am glad that you took out the time and celebrated Peaches's birthday as well...

Having that emotional distance is important...it will help you to go through with your day better! Have fun at the party, and yes take pictures...

becomingwhole on July 11, 2009 at 9:04 AM said...

Happy Birthday Zilla!

My favorite birthday quote of all time, "Birthday girls aren't supposed to cry!" (from my 3yo niece's party)

So glad that you're able to detach some--can't wait to hear about the PAR-TAY!

Mugsy on July 11, 2009 at 10:22 AM said...
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Mugsy on July 11, 2009 at 10:23 AM said...

Happy Birthday Zilla! AND Happy birthing day to you dear friend!

Kristin on July 11, 2009 at 10:24 AM said...

Happy Birthday Zilla! Glad you made it through this birthday filled week in one piece.

Deathstar on July 11, 2009 at 12:12 PM said...

Congratulations to you and Happy Birthday to Zilla! You're a great mum!

Sunny on July 11, 2009 at 7:06 PM said...

Happy birthday Zilla!! I don't blame him for thinking it's HIS day. When I was little, I always just used to nod and smile when my mom said, "Today is the Xth anniversary of when you made a mother." WHATEVER, MOM! :) Now I understand, of course.

Glad you had a fun (if busy) week and you're doing well with the Peaches stuff.

My name is Andy. on July 12, 2009 at 10:54 AM said...

Happy Birthday Zilla! I hope you enjoyed your Mac and Cheese!

Busted Tube on July 12, 2009 at 12:24 PM said...

Good for you for finding a way to be detached and yet still supportive! That's a difficult balance.
Happy birthday to Zilla (& Peaches)!

MAK-now on July 13, 2009 at 12:16 PM said...

Happy Birthday,Zilla!
It's so awesome that you gusy decorated teh house for him. I know it was a tough week, but you made it through and that's what counts, so SLEEP, k??
LOL!

Aunt Becky on July 13, 2009 at 1:25 PM said...

I find it lovely to let it all out sometimes. So glad you found some peace.

kate on July 14, 2009 at 12:11 PM said...

Heh. I can't WAIT to read about the crazy children + family party for Zilla! It sounds like it will be total, complete, absolute, WONDERFUL chaos!

Happy birthday, Zilla.

And good for you for being able to detach. I am like you- I fret about my friends too much because I don't want to see them hurt, and I don't want to have to watch while we go through the 'picking-up-the-pieces' part again. I so know what you mean. And I'm glad you were able to make some peace with it. It sounds like you guys had a great girls night in to celebrate her birthday. How fun!

IF Optimist, then... on July 15, 2009 at 6:45 PM said...

Zilla's comment made me grin. I love hearing about that stuff. Glad to know you are allowing yourself some space from anyone else's stress. Looking foward to reading about the big birthday bash.

alicia on July 16, 2009 at 8:13 AM said...

Happy birthday Zilla! Wow 6, that's an awesome year if I remember correctly!

We have Angel Wings on July 16, 2009 at 6:30 PM said...

Happy Birthda Zilla!!!

I know you got your shipment of goodies today and can't wait to hear how much you love them.

With that being said, take a wonderful hot bath and relax! Light some candles and drink a glass of wine. You deserve it.

Mel on July 16, 2009 at 9:31 PM said...

Happy (belated) Birthday Zilla boy! :) Sounds like you made the day lots of fun! I can't think of anything better than Mac and Cheese with hotdogs for my birthday. Mmmmmm!

Good for you...venting here is healthy and healing! I hope you've been able to sit back and relax! *hugs*

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