Amaprincess said something BRILLIANT on Twitter last night and I couldn't agree with her more! She said she was going to give people in her life the "three strikes" rule, it works in baseball, why can't it work in life? I think we've decided she's going to make spread sheets and I'll be sending email notifications informing the offender what strike they're on. Her idea came at a perfect time for me because Peaches should be on her elevenbillionth strike by now.
Peaches has always been a selfish friend, I know this, yet I've continued to be her friend. I figured that me knowing what type of person she is will protect me from the hurt. It only works sometimes, though. Lately I haven't really confided in her about things. I don't see the point because she won't listen to me and she won't give me the support I need. I didn't tell her when I was upset about my mom's birthday, I didn't see the point. I knew I wasn't going to get the kind of support I needed, so why bother? When I got home from class that night and we lit the birthday candles on the cake I made and sang happy birthday, she asked "why are you all singing happy birthday?" Dirty told her it was my mom's birthday, I couldn't say it. I didn't really expect her to remember that it was my mom's birthday, but maybe asking me if I'm ok? When I was cutting the cake she asked me why I didn't say anything. That's her being selfish, again. Instead of just giving me the support I need, she turned it around. It's what she does.
Normally her selfishness doesn't effect me as much as it effects others. I can shrug my shoulders and brush it off as that's who she is. I'm finding it harder and harder to do that, lately. Thursday I got my letter from the college saying my grants have FINALLY come through and I needed to fill out my loan paper work. After class on Friday, WE were suppose to do that. I needed her help because she already filled out her paper work a few months ago. She didn't help me, she took off with one of her friends to return something. I was pissed off and hurt. I took the time to help her out when she was filling out her paper work, but she couldn't do the same for me. I decided to just let it go because being pissed off about it wasn't going to change anything. She had her daughter over here yesterday and we were all going to go the library, return some books and check out new ones. Mostly for something to do and get everyone out of the house. Give poor Dirty a break from all the insanity that us women add to his life. As I was getting ready, she asked how much longer, I told her about 5 minutes. Then her ex husband came over to drop something off for me, and we all started chatting. Next thing I know, her friend pulls up in the driveway. Surprised, I say "Oh Jack is here. What's she here for?" I'm thinking either Jack was going with us, or she was just dropping something off for Peaches. NOPE! Peaches says "Jack wanted me to go to Salem with her and run a few errands." Salem is about 30 minutes away from us, so it wasn't going to be a 5-10 jaunt, it was going to be an all day thing. I ask her "So you're not going to the library with me, then?" "No, you hadn't gotten your shoes on, so I figured we weren't going to go". She asks me if I want a ride and I said "nope" with a bit of an attitude. I was pissed off this time and no amount of convincing myself that this is just who she is was going to make me not pissed off anymore. She made plans with me and because I wasn't moving fast enough for her, she LEFT! Didn't say anything to me about going with someone else or asking me if we were still going, just left! That is rude! I don't care how self absorbed you are, you HAVE to know that is rude!
I stewed about it for the rest of the evening, trying to get over it. When she got home, I was still kind of pissy and acted as such toward her. Instead of apologizing to me for ditching me, she asked if I was going to be pissy for the rest of the night or draw it out for the next few days. This is where I should have taken the high road, but didn't. I told her "I think I'm just going to draw it out for the next few days" and walked away. Wasn't one of my prouder moments, but well deserved nonetheless. As of right now, we haven't talked much.
I'd like to be able to just get over this and move on, but I'm not sure I can. I've given her so many "chances" and made excuses for her behavior, I don't think I can do it anymore. I think I'll have Amaprincess draw her up a spread sheet or buy her a book on manners. In the mean time, I think I'll keep my emotions to myself. No more depending on Peaches for anything.