Dec 21, 2008

In and out of the Fog

Musings of A Beautiful Mess
Sometimes I feel dark and murky like the water in that picture, other times I feel green and springy like the clover.

I did have one dreamless night. Ahhh it was nice to wake up feeling a bit rested. I don't know if it was because the day before was a really rough one and I was just to exhausted to dream, or I just got a break.

We got a huge snow storm Saturday. Friday night we went to the grocery store to get some food so we could eat, of course. We also got all the fixings for Christmas dinner. As I walked over to the freezer to grab a ham, I realized I had no idea what the hell I was doing. I haven't cooked a holiday meal without supervision before. I've never even picked out a ham before! I'm standing there trying to keep the tears from spilling over looking at the hams, not knowing which one to pick. I turn around and laugh and tell Husband "I have no idea what ham to pick, I don't know what I'm doing". I'm not sure if he heard the panic in my voice or was just wanting to get out of there as fast as we could, but he said "just pick whatever one". I go back to the freezer, walking very slowly, like the hams were going to jump out and attack me. Thankfully there were 2 ladies buying hams, too and helped me choose a ham. They told me which one to buy and which on NOT to buy. The one in my hand was the one NOT to buy. It may be less expensive, but it's full of fat, apparently. As a 33 year old woman, should I know this already? I shouldn't feel so lost buying a freaking ham!

We got through the rest of the shopping trip without anything else happening. I did my best to keep the tears at bay until I got home. I was concentrating on getting the groceries bought and getting the hell out of that damn store with those God forsaken hams.

We got home safely and put the groceries away and I collapsed into Husbands arms. Actually his chest. I laid my head on his chest and cried. We went into the bedroom and I told him what happened at the store. Why I was so freaked out over the ham. "This is the first meal I am going to cook with out my mom here or your mom here to help me out. What the hell am I going to do?!" He was great about it. he just let me cry, let me get frustrated and reminded me that this is going to happen and it's OK.

I was in a fog for the rest of the evening. I took a snooze on the couch for about an hour and felt a bit better after. When the kids went to bed, I just sat on the couch and stared at the T.V. I didn't see anything, just sat like a zombie. When we finally went to bed, I collapsed. Husband held me and I just slept. I slept a dream free night.

When I woke up Saturday, I still felt foggy and on auto pilot. I went about my business all day, but don't really remember much of it. Finally around 8 or 9 the fog lifted. I was listening to my ipod and had a certain song on repeat. I listened to it over and over and over again. I listened to every word of the song. I listened to it until I could make sense of it. It happened, the song clicked with me and it was the last 2 lines that did it.

The song is Beautiful Mess by Jason Mraz. Tha last 2 lines that made me come out of my fog is..
"And we tore our dresses, and stained our shirts
But it's nice today, oh the wait was so worth it."

I don't think I'm at the point that the wait is over, but sometimes, I feel like it is. That's a start. I'm not as strong as I was before my mom passed away, but I'm getting stronger then I was last year. I don't know who I will be when I get through the worst part of the pain of losing her, but hopefully I'll be close to who I was before that day in January.

Only time will tell....

12 friends have commented:

WiseGuy on December 22, 2008 at 5:28 AM said...

I hope you will come up with a swell meal on Christmas! I am rooting for you on that! All the very best!

Mothers are our angels!

Peace!

Dreamer4agift on December 22, 2008 at 1:24 PM said...

I don't cook. Ever. Okay, well, maybe once in a blue moon, but something easy to understand and has very good directions. Good luck with the ham, I'm sure you'll do a great job.

ICLW

MrsJoyner on December 22, 2008 at 5:31 PM said...

I felt the same way this past Thanksgiving..I volunteered to cook the meal for my family and I literally had to call my mom 50x about the damn turkey. I didn't want my first meal to give everyone food poisoning. It turned out really well, and Im sure yours will too. Thank you for the comment on my blog. It felt good to know there are people reading that do care.

katery on December 22, 2008 at 5:42 PM said...

i am 32 and i haven't the slightest idea how to buy a ham :)

lassie on December 22, 2008 at 6:44 PM said...

I guess we all have a "first solo ham purchase," in one way or another. It sounds like maybe your mom pointed you in the direction of the right freezer. I'm sure it will be a swell meal.

Offshore Wife on December 22, 2008 at 6:45 PM said...

I always purchase our ham. I've tried to cook them but it's typically dry and tasteless. However, I used Paula Dean's recipe for the ham glaze from Food Network last year and it turned out okay. I'm sure you will do fine. Good luck!

Trish on December 22, 2008 at 7:18 PM said...

I wouldn't know either I buy it pre sliced mostly.

I hope it turns out fine and you can remember with joy the things your Mum taught you. She will be there in spirit.

Merry Christmas

Here from ICLW...No. 88
My Little Drummer Boys

Mama Bear on December 22, 2008 at 7:24 PM said...

oh I am sure it will all turn out wonderful and I was thinking I am 37 and I would be so clueless--- happy holidays!

Faith on December 22, 2008 at 7:27 PM said...

Thanks so much for stopping by the blog -- hopefully I've moved beyond the dirt-kicking, at least for now, ha! Hope the Christmas meal goes off without a hitch (I'm bringing rolls to ours :)).

Celia on December 22, 2008 at 7:35 PM said...

Hey,

If you have any questions, I will do my best to answer them. My degree is in culinary arts. I was a pastry chef in the Time Before TTC. Feel free to leave one on my blog and I'll help if I can.

Tiffanie on December 22, 2008 at 8:49 PM said...

well, i hope your ham turns out delishious:)

i wouldn't know how to buy an entire ham either and i'll be 30 on valentine's day:(

CappyPrincess on December 23, 2008 at 7:59 PM said...

((((((HUGS)))))

I'm sure with your hutzpah you'll manage to pull off the meal just fine. In the meantime, I know it's hard. I wish I could do more than just offer a hug.

ICLW

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