Mar 20, 2009

Welcome March's IComLeavWe

Musings of A Beautiful Mess
Happy ICLW! It's my favorite week of the month. I get to find new blogs AND I get to "meet" new women, sometimes men. It's a lot of fun. If you are reading and have never heard of it, click on the icon and sing up for next month. It's really, a lot of fun! Did I mention, it's a lot of fun?...

If this is your first time here, or if you have been here before but all you ever knew about me is that my mom passed away 3 years ago and I'm just NOW starting to accept it and climb my way through it, then click this and start at "Here is my story:" it's a few paragraphs down. That's the "low down". Although, I never really told how I got here. I never said exactly how I got to be a part of this community.

It started in July of last year. I was feeling really sick and run down. I was having pelvic pain and figured it was a bladder infection. When it didn't get any better, with cranberry juice and such, my husband drug me to the ER. He had to convince me to go to the ER, I was sure I was "fine". He had to point out the pain I was having, even though I was trying to hide it. He also, pointed out my bloated belly *thanks babe* and my fatigue. So, off to the ER we went. We got there and they run all their female tests. Which, we all know, are just SO much fun! My nurse asked me all her questions and thought I was going through early menopause. Uhhhh, well OK?

After all my tests came back, it was determined that I had Pelvic Inflammatory Disease AGAIN?! I sat there, completely stunned! I had flashbacks of all the crap I went through when I had this the FIRST time. I panicked a bit. I asked my nurse how I could have gotten this AGAIN, and how can I NOT get it again. Her response was AMAZING! She said "well, honey, you have a vagina". That was the best reply she could have ever given me! The first time I got this, the nurses told me it was an STD. Ummm, hi I'm MARRIED and monogamous, there is NO way I have an STD, and if I do..feel free to kick that guy's ass that's in the waiting room. This nurse told me that, yes it is possible to get PID from an STD, but generally the cause is having a vagina.
I can't even begin to tell you how relieved I was to hear her say that. I, of course, knew I didn't have an STD, but whenever I'd go to a new doctor and tell them my history, I always felt like I was defending myself.

They released me with a bunch of paperwork and 3 prescriptions. 2 antibiotics and a beautiful pain killer. I was put on bed rest by my husband and my friends. I was told NOT to get out of bed, unless I had to use the restroom. He even had someone babysit me when he had to go to work. There was NO way I was getting out of this one. Noway I could pretend I was fine before I was.

Since I was stuck in bed or at my PC, once I could sit up without pain, I had nothing to do but surf the Internet. I went to Redbook and read articles and blogs. I read one article, and that woman had a blog. I read her blog and that blog led me to Mel's blog. I was hooked right away! Seriously, how much do we love Mel?! I sent her an email, making sure I was "welcome". I didn't want anyone to feel bad because I was there. I hadn't told anyone my story and I really didn't want anyone to feel bad. I know it's silly, but it's how I felt at the time. Mel of course said I WAS welcome and I've been here ever since.

Here I am today, giving and receiving more support then I could have ever imagined. I'm not glad I got PID again, but I am glad I was put on bed rest, so I could find this community and ALL of you wonderful strong women!

I look forward to reading new blogs, getting to know other bloggers, getting and receiving a virtual hug.


17 friends have commented:

Kristin on March 21, 2009 at 7:44 AM said...

Since I didn't know you back then, I'll say WELCOME now and tell you how very glad we are to have you as a part of our community.

sara on March 21, 2009 at 9:51 AM said...

Thanks for the welcome and I'm so glad to have you as a part of the community!


nancy on March 21, 2009 at 2:08 PM said...

:) I did the same thing with Mel - made sure I was, in fact, welcomed. And of course, I was.

I read you anyway, but ICLW for my records!

Liv on March 21, 2009 at 2:18 PM said...

You silly girl, of course you belong here. :o)

I'm glad you ended up with a caring nurse that put your mind at ease. You're right, the circumstances of what made you need bedrest aren't good - but I'm so thankful you found yourself here. You bless me everyday.

Love ya!

JamieD on March 21, 2009 at 3:00 PM said...

Sorry for the PID but so glad you found us! There's lots of love here . . .

A Mom in Jacksonville, FL on March 21, 2009 at 5:42 PM said...

Thanks for visiting my blog!

SO glad you had a caring nurse, and that you were able to be treated with antibiotics. And what a sweet DH requiring you to stay on bedrest! :)


LTB on March 21, 2009 at 6:03 PM said...

I met Mel when I had my IF blog. And I did the same as you when I just started by post-IF divorce blog... she's become such a guru, I wanted to make sure I was "welcome"... would people really want to read about more awfulness to come from IF? And less than 24 hours later I was on her list...

Thanks for stopping by to say hello.

rocket.queen. on March 21, 2009 at 8:40 PM said...

Incredible journey. I am honored to counted among 'friends' with women as amazing as yourself.

Queenie. . . on March 22, 2009 at 5:00 AM said...

It's so true. . .Mel has made so many women feel connected and less alone. I'm so glad we have her!

Flower on March 22, 2009 at 6:34 AM said...

Thanks for the welcome. Sorry about the PID, so glad to know that the nurse eased your mind.


Mrs. Gamgee on March 22, 2009 at 7:29 AM said...

Wow... that's quite a road to travel. Thank you for sharing your story!


Carrie on March 22, 2009 at 12:31 PM said...

Consider yourself virtually hugged! ;)

I had a PID almost six years ago and ended up in the ER, where I was sent home with no treatment! They had no idea what was wrong for a few days. Those HURT.

So glad to get to learn more about you- and thanks for the comments on my blog!


Nic on March 22, 2009 at 2:21 PM said...

Happy ICLW, I love this time of the month!! I love those cups, they made me laugh!

Melissa on March 26, 2009 at 10:48 AM said...

Thank you so much for sharing your story! I was diagnosed with PID and that is why I just had my surgery. I had to have my tube removed. I completely understand with feeling the need to defend yourself. Now, the doc is saying that it might have been something I was born with. I'll find out more at my post-op appt next week. It's a pleasure meeting you!


MrsJoyner on March 26, 2009 at 11:00 AM said...

Firstly..thank you for your comment..I like getting new readers and finding new blogs via ICLW..Secondly, I had PID in 2004 and the doctors said it had "unknown etiology" and a kind nurse came and told me the same thing "you're a woman, therefore, you have a vagina, and it isn't ALWAYS an STD" put my mind right at ease. Thirdly..I did the same thing with Mel, lol:)

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