*A very opinionated post. And not because of the Bat Shit Crazy Pills I'm taking, Wiseguy*
I'm a little bit irritated about some people and the way they are being treated by friends. I've read a bunch of blogs the past two days, as it's ICLW and there is NOT one blog on the list that isn't amazing! A few of the blogs have one thread in common and that is not being supported and being judged by the people in their lives. This REALLY pisses me off! I get that the choices and decisions we make in our lives are going to ruffle some feathers. Believe me, I get it! There have been MANY times when the decisions I've made that have been met with weird looks. But if your friends and/or family judge you, who is left?
It is NOT OK to judge someone for their choices! Of course, there are circumstances when someone did something not right, and in that case, lets throw stones at the fucker. But when it comes to a decision a couple is making to build their family (or not) or how to raise their kids, nobody gets a say in that. You can give your opinion, but nobody gets to tell you you're doing the "wrong thing".
There have been friends in my life who make the wrong choice, in my opinion, or one I wouldn't make, but I'll still support them. Even when that choice leads them to fall flat on their face, I'll still support them. Once the air is cleared and the friend can see the error of her ways, THAT'S when I do the "I told you so dance", not before.
After my mom died, there were a lot of people at the ready to help me grieve. I wasn't ready to grieve then. It took me awhile, but not many of those people were still around when I needed them. When I fell into the pit of darkness and I needed a really good friend the most, I didn't get it. That friend ignored the problem and pretended I was fine. Why? Because SHE couldn't see me "weak". That's not cool.
It makes me sad that people can be so judgmental and so rude. I don't understand it. That may be that I live in my Pollyanna world where all I see are rainbows and sunshine, but it still makes me sad. Support your friends no matter what their going through. Isn't that what friends are suppose to do?!
Next I'm going to do a post on body image that's been rolling around in my head since I read Parenthood for Me's post on it. If you haven't read it, you SHOULD! It's amazing!