May 18, 2009

He Can Read! *Children Mentioned*

Musings of A Beautiful Mess

I took that picture today after Zilla got home from school. Poor little guy is one tired kid! He should be tired because we did his homework today and he READ a story with little help from me!

When he started school, he was behind..by A LOT! I tried to do preschool with him, but he was not having it. And I really didn't want to push him. I didn't want him to end up hating school before he even started. So, we did fun "kid stuff".

He is our last. he is the one we thought we were never going to have. He is the one we waited 5 years to get pregnant and FINALLY have. This kid saved my life when my mom died. If it wasn't for him, I would've gone to bed. If I didn't have a demanding toddler to take care of, there would be no way I would have made it through each day. Yes, there was Nae, but she was at school all day long. I could have easily gotten her off to school and gone back to bed if it wasn't for Zilla. He and I had days where we would stay in our jammies all day long and eat popcorn and lunch in my bed. But we also had days where we would get on our grubbies and walk in the rain to find worms. We would make mud pies and play with his cars and "guys" in the mud pit in the back yard. Those years were a lot of fun. Just my Zilla and I.

When he started school, they put him in the "all day" program because he didn't know his sounds. He knew a few letters, but didn't know ANY sounds. Poor kid. I felt horrible about that. I still do, but I did my best to let it go and concentrate on getting him caught up. There is no way I would trade one day of our five years together, if it meant he would be "caught up" because nobody else can give him what I gave him. I know this, but I still felt bad that he had to work harder because I didn't teach him his ABC's.

But today? All of our hard work has FINALLY paid off! He read a short story with very little help from me and NO tears from him! He struggled with it the first few times, but after that, he did amazing! I am so proud of him, I could cry! There were many times when he would get so frustrated and cry and I would feel like such an asshole because I didn't teach him before he went to school. But those times are in the past. No more mommy guilt today, Zilla did IT!

Way to go Zilla. We are SO proud of you! Keep up the good work!

**don't mind the ink on his legs. We had a slumber party this weekend and all of Nae's friends used him as a practice canvas. With Sharpies, no less :-|**

27 friends have commented:

Vintage Mommy on May 18, 2009 at 5:35 PM said...

Oh man, that mommy guilt will get ya every time! I think it's wonderful that you spent quality kid time together instead of memorizing the alphabet sounds!!

GeekByMarriage on May 18, 2009 at 6:45 PM said...

OMG ROCK ON LIL MAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

WiseGuy on May 18, 2009 at 7:45 PM said...

How cool is that! Super Zilla Super!

You reverberate my emotion...it is not that parents rear kids....it is both rearing both!

: )

rys on May 19, 2009 at 5:38 AM said...

That's fantastic! Don't stress over the past...you gave him an irreplacable firm foundation, even if it's not the way the school district might define it. :-)

natalie on May 19, 2009 at 6:06 AM said...

Awww, Yay!!! Way to go! :)

A Mom in Jacksonville, FL on May 19, 2009 at 6:47 AM said...

Way to go, Zilla!

And hooray for YOU---giving your boy quality parenting time. Not every Mom makes mudpies...YOU ROCK! :)

SS on May 19, 2009 at 6:55 AM said...

I live in the craziest overparenting tiown in the world I think, where parents stake their identity on where children go to preschool and palcement tests for private schools are given to 4 year olds! it's really insane. The more I read about it, I believe it's better to let a kid be a kid prior to the school years. The kids that are drilled beginning at age 2 are ahead of the curve for a few years, but by the time the kids are like 9 the ones without the earlier structure catch up. And you'll never be able to give that 2 y.o. who has a structured preschool 3 times a week and spanish lessons and music class and flash card time her carefree toddler days. Good for you for doing what felt right to you, and for putting in the time now to catch him up.

Jenn on May 19, 2009 at 8:31 AM said...

OMG - I absolutely love that pic hon!

He is completely done-for - must have been a long day!!

Zilla rocks - just like his mama!!!

I love the way you described spending time with Zilla - in your jammies and hunting worms.

That was as valuable as the work you did reading with him!

Way to go - both of you!!

JamieD on May 19, 2009 at 8:39 AM said...

Yay, Zilla!! Woo-hoo!!

We have Angel Wings on May 19, 2009 at 9:12 AM said...

Woot! That is so awesome!! I'm so glad that he read you the book with out getting frustrated and tears.

Way to go Zilla!!!

Katie on May 19, 2009 at 9:24 AM said...

How great for him! and you.

My name is Andy. on May 19, 2009 at 9:26 AM said...

WOOHOO Zilla! Reading ROCKS!!!

cysteract on May 19, 2009 at 9:51 AM said...

OMG WTG ZILLA YOU ROCK!!! don't feel bad over the past those memories will last you both a life time.

I struggled with my reading for AGES it can be so frustrating so I'm just thrilled for him

xX

alicia on May 19, 2009 at 11:35 AM said...

WOW!! awesome Zilla! that is soo excellent!

Eve on May 20, 2009 at 11:21 AM said...

What a sweet picture and story behind it! ITA with Vintage Mommy...mommy guilt will rear it's ugly head whether you do too much, too little, too often, or too soon. It's never perfect. Luckily, all we need to be is good enough.

honeywine on May 20, 2009 at 12:56 PM said...

Aaawww...it's awesome when they do the things you didn't expect them to. Sometimes struggling is better for the soul. At least that's what I try to convince myself. Of all the things I've done in my life, it's the things I worked hard for that I'm most proud of. I hope he holds on to that too.

becomingwhole on May 20, 2009 at 2:44 PM said...

What you gave him, nobody else ever could. And now he can read, AND he has all those memories and a solid foundation of who he is and how much his mom loves him. You sound like a great mom.

Serendipity on May 20, 2009 at 3:20 PM said...

that's fantastic for both of you, that must be the best feeling in the world.

WiseGuy on May 20, 2009 at 11:45 PM said...

Sending you @---|--es....good wishes!


*ICLW*

Billy on May 20, 2009 at 11:59 PM said...

So glad to hear how he's catching up. Way to go Zilla!

ICLW

Parenthood For Me on May 21, 2009 at 4:39 AM said...

That is awesome. That is great that you two had so much fun. Luv Bug is my little buddy too.
Way to go!

Jaymee on May 21, 2009 at 6:18 AM said...

YAY zilla!!!! that is a huge accomplishment!! it took me forever to learn to read and i still remember the frustration. of course, he will have wonderful memories of those years he spent just being a kid.

Nina on May 21, 2009 at 8:05 AM said...

Hi, here from ICLW. I'm proud of him too! Seems like he's catching up quickly, and glad you're feeling better.

Gina on May 21, 2009 at 8:18 AM said...

Great Job!!!

ICLW

The Muser (aka Beautiful Mama) on May 21, 2009 at 9:27 PM said...

Ah, what a great story. Yay! :)

Mama Bear on May 25, 2009 at 1:59 PM said...

Awesome!

MAK-now on May 27, 2009 at 10:36 AM said...

Zilla ROCKS!!!

Keep up the good mommy work, you're doing fine!

p.s. thanks for stopping by my blog!

**ICLW**

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